This Yehuda Moon cartoon sums it up pretty nicely - unfortunately, it's not quite so simple.

She Wants to Ride the School Bus, but It’s Not Working

This cartoon popped up in my Twitter feed via @BrentTodarian. I haven't found the artist yet.
This cartoon Yehuda Moon cartoon (produced by Rick Smith & Brian Griggs) sums it up – but for parents making this decision every morning, it’s not quite so simple.

“It’s not the first two streets that are the problem; she can cross those. It’s that last street, because it doesn’t have a stop sign. And people drive SO fast through town.”

We stood in one small circle of conversation among many others, the room buzzing with questions about the first week of school. Flocks of small children swooped around our legs, swiping cups of lemonade before flying off to bring mayhem to some formerly-quiet corner of the church.

“It’s frustrating, because I really, really wanted her to ride the bus to school. It’s good for her to learn to take the bus and to have that independence, and to know that if she’s not out there on time she’ll miss it.”

I play with the edges of the paper coffee cup, folding the handle up and down as I listen. The coffee is thick and almost greasy somehow, leaving its mark on the sides of the cup.

“But I have other kids, too – honestly, if I have to wake them up anyway to walk her to the bus stop, it’s just easier to stick them in their car seats.”

Yes, the agony of organizing multiple children for school runs. Pulling the sleeping child out from under their blankets, draping that floppy, unwilling weight over your shoulder as you run out the door, returning to the house to pull a second droopy kid from bed. Tears falling from those bleary eyes, always, mama frazzled and late.

We talked through a couple of possibilities. There aren’t any other kids on her block going to the same bus stop, so a walking school bus (uh… to the school bus?) is out. The problem is that one street that’s hard to cross.

Almost all of the east-west streets around here stop at every intersection, but the north-south streets normally go eight blocks or so between stop signs. Of course, this means that traffic on these streets is much faster and that they’re more difficult and dangerous to cross. They’re designed so that people passing through by car can make good time – but they don’t add value to our neighborhoods.

I can think of three women just off the top of my head this morning who are driving their kids to school because there is a street too busy for their child to cross. I accompany my capable children every day for this same reason. The profound irony of this, of course, is that 20% or more of morning traffic is made up of parents doing just that. Which comes first, the chicken or the egg?

When we begin to talk about a Montessori City, we’re talking about a place where kids can practice age-appropriate behaviors without being unnaturally constrained by their environment. This is entirely do-able, but it’s going to require us to make some changes – and the sooner we allow our kids to live full lives right in their own neighborhoods, the better off our whole community will be down the road.

“It takes me seven minutes to walk her to the bus stop, longer if her little brother insists on walking. It takes me ten minutes to drive her to school. I think I’ll let her take the bus home, but I’m going to start driving her to school. This just isn’t working.

Three Ways to Love on ALL the Kids Starting School

DSCF6396 They walk off this morning, bright backpacks on their backs and sweet-smelling lunchboxes in their hands (heaven knows those things won’t smell so good at Christmastime). Bouncing down the sidewalk with first-day enthusiasm, excited about new friends and new work. I trail behind, snapping pictures and wondering how it is that these kids who climbed into our bed every single night for years on end are suddenly so confident. So BIG.

We walk with them today, and probably will every day this year. It’s a walk they could easily manage, but you know – traffic.

And so, here’s what I hope the people who drive through my neighborhood this year do as they go on their way to drop off their own little babies-turned-big. (Last year I was one of those driving through, so I get the challenges.)

  • Hide their phone from themselves.
    We saw it already this morning, the good guy we know talking on his cell phone as he breezed through the crosswalk. We can do this. We can put our phones down, turn them off, set them to airplane mode, when we’re going somewhere. It feels like we’re cutting off an appendage, but you know how Jesus said that if a part of your body was getting you in trouble you’d be better off without it? This counts.
  • Slow down.
    I won’t belabor this because we’ve talked about it before and will again, but the human body is not designed for collisions with steel and fiberglass. An adult body considers anything above 20 mph a high speed. With kids, it’s even worse. For every single mile per hour faster we drive – yes, really, in increments that small – there’s a dramatic and measurable increase in the likelihood that a person hit by our car will die. We don’t want that. You don’t want that. We don’t want that for our communities, and we don’t want a kid who makes a mistake to pay for that mistake with his or her life. That’s not the kind of people we are. So let’s slow down.
  • Chill out.
    Some of the worst behavior I’ve ever seen in adult humans has been while waiting in the car line in the past couple years. Honking, yelling, cutting people off, swerving around the whole car line at ridiculous speeds while there are kids walking around – insane. One of the most frustrating pieces of driving is getting stuck in traffic we don’t expect, and we want to make up the time. But it’s not worth it. Let’s keep our cool.

    We can do this, and it’s worth it. Why? Because we believe in the beauty, the potential and the right-now awesomesauce of every kid starting their new school adventure this fall. We believe in the futures of the children pulling up in minivans and in the futures of the children who are skidding up on Huffys. We watch out for our kids – ALL of our kids – because as a community, that’s who we are.

  • Room to Breathe


    It was summer at its best. Grilled chicken, watermelon, second cousins, fireworks, a toddler belly-flopping off the dock… and traffic, the unsung Independence Day tradition!

    On our way home from the cottage, my family was logjammed for over an hour passing through Grand Haven. We were struck by how many people on bikes were crossing the river on the gravelly shoulder of US-31 – many of them children, most without lights, and all without protection from the crazies trying to fly around the traffic jam.

    The whole city seemed to be at a standstill…


    … and it brought this visual to mind.


    Can you imagine what it would be like in our cities if we had more room to breathe?

    image courtesy Copenhagenize Design Co.

    Bikes in Holland is TODAY

    I wish the blurriness was for effect... the toddler's been using my camera!
    I wish the blurriness was for effect… the toddler’s been using my camera!

    Today’s the day, friends! I’m feeling ready and excited. This is going to be fun.

    If you’ve been thinking of coming but haven’t gotten tickets yet, don’t fear – they’ll be available at the door for $12 (cash only, thank you) until the room gets crowded.

    We’ll be at Fourteenth Street Church (14 W. 14th Street) at 7:00 pm. I hope to see you there!


    Thank you for playing, everyone!

    The winner is… Susan!

    I know that Susan has already purchased her ticket, so if you think you know her you might want to bring her a cup of coffee and see if she’ll share.

    I hope to see many of you tomorrow evening! Tickets are $10. If you haven’t gotten yours yet, you can pick them up at Simpatico Coffee (714 Washington in Holland), MainStreet Beanery (209 E. Main St. in Zeeland), or online at There will also be a limited number of tickets available at the door for $12.

    Announcing… the Share the Love Flash Contest!

    A quick glance at my loaded dining room table – a.k.a., my desk – will tell you that something BIG is happening here.

    Hot dog picnic on the porch! Yay for the fun mom!
    Hot dog picnic on the porch! Yay for the fun mom!

    Press releases, microphone jacks… it’s incredible how many details there are to keep track of in an event like this. But my friends, it is going to be so worth it.

    Now, I need your help – I really do. There are still too many people out there who haven’t heard of Bikes in Holland, and that’s just a shame. We want to pack this room out!

    So, the contest:

    The prize is a pair of tickets for you and a lucky friend to enjoy Bikes in Holland, of course. Entering is simple: share, then let me know that you did.

    Here’s what you do to enter:

    1) Share the event with your friends on Facebook, or
    2) Share the event with your followers on Twitter, or
    3) Personally invite your friends to Bikes in Holland.

    For each Facebook share you’ll receive one entry. You can leave a comment here that you did it, e-mail me at tulip (dot) lane (at) outlook (dot) com, or share right from the Bikes in Holland Facebook page. I believe in communities with integrity, so this is on the honor system. I trust you.

    For each tweet you’ll receive one entry, with additional entries for each time your tweet is retweeted. Tag @bikesinholland in your tweet.

    Finally, either leave a comment below or e-mail me the names of each of your friends that you personally invited. I don’t care if you send them an e-mail or talk to them face-to-face, as long as it’s personal. And I don’t need their Social Security Numbers – you can just say, “I called Ron VW and invited him to Bikes in Holland!” and that’s good.

    This contest will end on Thursday at 5pm, after which I’ll quickly draw a name and announce the lucky winner.

    And if you know that you can’t come but like the idea of being able to get around easily on your bike, will you share this event with your friends anyway?

    Have fun, and thank you for supporting Bikes in Holland!

    Bikes in Holland bridges Tulip Time and Green Commute Week

    Because you guys are my favorites, you get to see the Bikes in Holland press release first. Let me know what you think!

    Professor Lee Hardy of Calvin College will present “Making Way for Bikes: The Urban Bicycle Infrastructure of Amsterdam and Copenhagen” at the Bikes in Holland event at 7:00 p.m. on Saturday, May 10. Following his presentation, local residents will have the opportunity to weigh in on the Holland-Zeeland area’s new Non-Motorized Plan, which will be presented by Elisa Hoekwater of the Macatawa Area Coordinating Council. Bikes in Holland will be held in the renovated facilities of Fourteenth Street Christian Reformed Church in downtown Holland.

    Hardy embarked on a two-week study tour of Amsterdam and Copenhagen in the summer of 2012. He interviewed city officials and bicycle advocates, took measurements, and recorded his experiences with both still and video photography. Hardy then crafted his observations into a 45-minute presentation which has also been viewed by the City of Grand Rapids Design Team (engineers and planners), the Michigan Chapter of the Congress for New Urbanism, and the Greater Grand Rapids Bicycle Coalition. He has been commuting by bicycle from the Eastown neighborhood of Grand Rapids to Calvin College for thirty years.

    Hoekwater is the Senior Transportation Planner at the Macatawa Area Coordinating Council. In addition to organizing the area’s popular Green Commute Week program, she is the primary author of the draft Non-Motorized Plan, which was approved by the MACC’s Policy Committee last week. The Plan is a collaboration between local units of government that seeks to allow safe and efficient travel through the area by creating a connected network of bicycle and pedestrian paths. The next phase in the non-motorized network addresses intersection improvements and on-road bike lanes. Hoekwater is currently working to develop the region’s Long-Range Transportation Plan for the year 2040, due early next year.

    “Bikes in Holland explores a fascinating aspect of Dutch culture and considers how it could intersect with our own,” says event organizer Meika Weiss. “It’s a great way to both wrap up Tulip Time and begin Green Commute Week.”

    Tickets for Bikes in Holland are $10 and are available online at or locally at Simpatico Coffee (714 Washington Ave., Holland) or MainStreet Beanery (209 E. Main St., Zeeland). A limited number of tickets will be available at the door for $12.

    Because livable places are better.


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